Dear Paula,
Is there really chance of a guy liking a women eight years older or am I wasting my time - I'm 33? Any advice would be great.Dear Paula writes:
I can't tell you how many people write in with concerns about age gaps. Eight years is absolutely nothing and this question wouldn't arise if he were eight years older than you.

Many 25 year old men would be thrilled at the idea of an "older woman" being attracted to them. That (slight, in your case) age gap is often enough to confer an increase in maturity which makes relationships easier.

We tend to get a bit less self-involved and demanding and more inclined to consider the feelings of others as we get older. An older woman (though I would hardly class you as such)i s often easier to get along with as long as she's comfortable in her own skin. How you feel about yourself is really the issue, rather than the age gap.

These days it's very hard to tell how old a woman is and I think this worry about being older than the man is a hangover from the past when women suddenly had to look and behave middle aged at 30. You only have to look at how fantastic many 60 year olds look compared to 30 years ago, when they might well have been wearing crimplene and having perms.

Believe me, eight years is nothing as long as you feel confident about yourself. If you convince yourself that age is irrelevant and stop thinking about it and mentioning it, there's no reason why it should be any kind of a problem.