Dear John,

I am a 20 year old, relatively attractive, intelligent woman. There is a guy I have been with quite a few times now, and he made it clear to me at the beginning that he wanted me and fancied me. The first few times we were together he texted me, and spoke to me fine, but since we were together the last time he's started blanking me.I don't understand it! Did I do something wrong? Was I not good enough in bed? I am racking my brain to try to find the reason he is not talking to me now, but don't want to come straight out and ask him, as it sounds a bit desperate to me. I know his mates take the mick out of each other about the girls they like, but they were particularly harsh to him purely because I have a child. I think this is out of order, but its not really my place to say.

He is also 18, and a bit immature.

Could these be the reasons? Or did he get what he wanted a few times and get bored? Please help!

Dear John writes:

Dit dit di-dit... dit dit di-dit... here is a newsflash: men will say anything in order to get a woman into bed. And sometimes, after the wham and bam, you're lucky to get a "thank you ma'am".

Chances are it was nothing you said, or did. It could just be that he wanted a bit of fun and nothing else, and by being a discourteous pillock he is dropping a hint the only way he knows how. Or it could be that he was worried about getting too involved with somebody who has a child, as he's not ready to act as any kind of makeshift "uncle", and by being a discourteous pillock... do you catch my drift?

Besides, you mention that he's 18 and immature. So what do you want with him anyway? Go and find somebody else with your head held high, knowing inside that at least you're ready to have a relationship with another adult human being, and aren't about to get your kicks out of turning into a complete bumhole after you've started getting your oats.

Newsflash ends.

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